In the beginning when God instituted marriage.  He looked at man, and He knew man could not be alone.  God had to make him a help mate who would make his life joyful.
Genesis 2:18.  "And the LORD GOD said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him."
It is God that makes this decision for man, and He is the only one who knows how to do it.  You cannot do it on your own because God is the only matchmaker.

ISAAC'S MARRIAGE

Genesis 24:2-7  
"Verse 2.  And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: Verse 3.  And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of the earth that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell. Verse 4.  But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac. Verse 5.  And the servant said unto him.  Peradventure the woman will not be willing to follow me unto this land: must I needs bring thy son again unto the land from whence thou camest? Verse 6.  And Abraham said unto him, Beware thou that thou bring not my son thither again.  Verse 7.  The Lord God of heaven, which took me from my father's house, and from the land of my kindred, and which spake unto me, and that swore unto me, saying, Unto thy seed will I give this land; he shall send his angel before thee, and thou shalt take a wife unto m y son from thence."

Here one can see that Abraham wanted the will of God in marriage for his son Isaac.  If he had chosen for himself, the covenant of God would not have been continued in his life.   This tells us that when you choose incorrectly, it will affect your future stability in life.

You will not understand each other.  Perfection will not be there.  You would begin to say, "But both of us are born-again."  For the fact you are born again does not give you the right not to pray for the will of God.  When Samson stepped out of the will of God he lost all his power, and his life was shortened.

NOTE THIS
The servant of Abraham did not say, "Yes, I have gotten to the city, any lady I see will be the wife of Isaac." But, he prayed to God to choose a wife for Isaac.

Genesis 24:14.  "And let it come to pass, that damsel to whom I shall say, Let down thy pitcher, I pray thee, that I may drink; and she shall say, Drink, and I will give thy camels drink also: let the same be she that thou has appointed for thy servant Isaac; and thereby shall I know that thou hast showed kindness unto my master."

Genesis 24:15.  "And it came to pass, before he had done speaking, that, behold, Rebekah came out, who was born to Bethuel, son of Milcah, the wife of Nahor, Abraham's brother, with her pitcher upon her shoulder."

God answers the prayers of the righteous when he calls on Him. This is how Isaac's marriage was perfected: by letting God choose for him.  This allowed Isaac to proceed into the covenant of God in his life and peace reigned.

Genesis 24:67.  "And Isaac brought her into his mother Sarah's tent, and took Rebekah, and she became his wife; and he loved her; and Isaac was comforted after his mother's death."

When you allow God to choose for you there would be comfort, peace, and joy in marriage.


JACOB'S MARRIAGE

When you choose wrongly, it creates many problems in marriage.  You can see how Jacob did not follow the steps of his father, Isaac, by not asking God about his wife.

NOTE THIS.  Jacob was led to the place where his wife was; but he chose by himself.

THE WRONG CHOICE

Genesis 28:1-2.
"Verse 1.  And Isaac called Jacob, and blessed him, and charged him, and said unto him, Thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan.
Verse 2.  Arise, go to Padanaram, to the house of Bethuel thy mother's father; and take thee a wife from thence of the daughters of Laban thy mother's brother."

If you look at this message carefully, you will see that a light came to Jacob by the word of his father, Isaac--the place to find his wife was revealed to him.  The same applies to all children of God.  You must be led before you can choose any sister or brother in the body of Christ.  You need to allow God to lead you, which Jacob did not do.

Genesis 29:18. "And Jacob loved Rachel; and said I will serve thee seven years for Rachel thy younger daughter."  

Because Jacob did not allow God to lead him, this opened the door for seven (7) more years of service; and envy, curse, and death followed.

Envy: There was envy between the two wives--no love in the family.

Curse: Jacob cursed whomever stole the idol of his father-in-law, which happened to be Rachel, whom he loved.

Death: The curse of Jacob brought death to Rachel.

If you allow God to choose for you, you will see God in all trouble areas of your marriage; and, if there is anything obstructing your marriage, God will answer you when you call on Him.  

YOU MUST QUALIFY BEFORE YOU CAN KNOW THE WILL OF GOD FOR MARRIAGE

 
You must be born-again and standing on the word of God.  He will reveal who your spouse is.

II Corinthians 4:2.  "But have renounced the hidden things of dishonesty, not walking in craftiness, nor handling
the word of God deceitfully; but by manifestation of the truth commending ourselves to every man's conscience
in the sight of God."

Apostle O. B. Michael